Excuse me if this is disjointed, but I have several things on my mind and am tired.
Firstly, Jade has been vile today. We go through these phases every now and then, when her nastiness to Shannon (hitting, pinching, name-calling, snatching toys away etc) gets worse and our parental tempers get shorter too and every day is a trial for a while. So much so, at the moment, that she only has to do 9 more nasty things to anybody and her birthday party on Sunday will be cancelled. (T-bird: if that comes to pass, our Plan B would be just to go out somewhere with you and Aprilia, so do still come!). We haven't figured out what causes these phases - it might be that we are doing or not doing something to which she is reacting, but if so we are not seeing it yet. But it is so aggravating when you have tried every which way you can to improve a child's behaviour and it just doesn't seem to make one jot of difference.
Sunday was a strange day. We sold our cot on Ebay (for a surprisingly large amount of money!) and it was collected on Sunday morning, so we re-arranged our bedroom to return it to its pre-cot configuration. Which ended up having unanticipated reverberations for both Bill and I because the last time it was like that, Benjamin was at home with us. We moved the furniture around to get a Moses basket in when he'd been home with us for a few days. And considering I hadn't gone to church on Sunday morning, because it was the annual open-air service which I haven't attended for the past 8 years because I have such clear memories of attending it 9 years ago with one small baby, I guess I was already set up for feeling a bit weird. Sometimes I wonder if these uncomfortable episodes will ever stop - will there ever be a time when there isn't something that can send me all off-balance?
It feels like not much planned educational stuff has gone on lately. We did a bit of Miquon maths this morning which provoked some tension in Jade and had me working hard to control my reactions as she fiddled about, wrote stupid things in the book, didn't concentrate on my explanations and so on. That's about it as far as formal stuff has gone on. She has however spent a vast amount of the past few days avidly reading some books about ponies and pony care, so should we ever win on the Premium Bonds and be able to buy her one, she'll at least know roughly what to do!
Shannon is really enjoying having recently learned to identify all the letters of the alphabet as Letterland characters, and frequently stops and reads through the list of letters in any word / logo / advert she comes across. It's fun!
And, having just realised how horribly late it is, that's the lot for now.
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could the phases of nastiness be on a regular cycle by any chance? Aprilia gets vile once every 6 or 8 weeks and then either grows a few inches or can suddenly do something she couldn't the week before. it's no consolation when you are living on a battle ground but it does seem to be how it is here.
have a few brackets for now and claim them as real hugs at teh weekend if needed!
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I'm not anticipating ever escaping the bouts of misery; it doesn't happen quite so often, but i can still be reduced to complete body locking nothing very easily. I think physical/spacial triggers are oddly unexpected (the news, weepy blog posts etc are obvious) but just suddenly feeling yourself back somewhere is really horrid and comes so out of the blue that you can't protect yourself from it.
Are Jade and Maddy of an age? I can't remember... if they are, its an age thing, i feel like battering Moo against a wall at the moment.
Ah, Merry, that's a very good description of the feeling about the dear daughter! But Jade is a year younger I think - just about to turn 7.
F definitely has phases where the better behaviour is rarer (my tactful way of putting it) and harder to come by. I do think, as t-bird says, growing and development has a lot to do with it.
Often F will be tragically remorseful after behaving really badly. Which is good, I suppose, but just as wearing in some ways as the behaviour that led to it!
Is that a new piccie on the blog? I like it!
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